Pardon my rant

I may have to stop with the blogging. I don't have an interesting enough life to offer people glimpses into it. Then when I do blog, I feel like I am just being angry and ranting. So, that said, here is my rant for the day, if you will allow me.

I want to be a good wife. I pray for new knowledge every day. I pray that God will prepare me to be a blessing to my husband. That he will be blessed that I am his wife. No, I'm not married...nor am I on the verge of becoming so...nor is anyone even interested in me. So why even bring it up? Well, I see broken marriages all around me, including my parents', and it breaks my heart to see the way spouses treat each other. Its as though they don't understand what an incredible blessing marriage is.

Wake up! Look what the Lord has given you. A helper, a partner, a confidant, a lover, a friend....and on and on.

Don't misunderstand me. I enjoy the freedom of singleness and the blessing that I am allowed to try to be. There is no checking with a mate about schedules, no children to be concerned with, very few distractions. But seriously, God created man and woman to be working together, helping, nurturing, loving, etc...together.

Can you imagine what the state of marriage would look like if spouses were nice to each other? If instead of insults; praise rolled off the lips? If instead of sarcasm; good humor and laughter were a large part of the conversational diet? If instead of accentuating the negative, we looked for the positive? Instead of tearing down, we were building them up and encouraging them...spurring them on to goodness.

A few years ago, I belonged to a small church out in the middle of nowhere. I was 17 and there was this couple that sat in the pew a couple rows before me. They were always saying nice things to each other, building each other up when talking to people, helping one another with their individual ministries, holding hands, helping each other find verses in the Bible and hymnbook. They had been married 66 years! When people around them were saying that's a long time to have to live with one person, they were counting it a blessing that they got to share the past 66 years together and were hoping for many more. Outstanding!

I wish I had the answer for why people don't take into account the blessing of marriage. If I did, I would write a booklet and give it away to every person who was about to get married! I would flat out tell them, spend more time and money preparing for your marriage than for the wedding! All you need for the wedding is a time and place, the marriage is what really needs the prep work!!

All this to say, I want to be a good wife. I see examples of poor ones all around me and my desire is to be different. I want my husband to be glad, everyday, that he decided to make me his spouse.

I guess the first step to being a good wife is to be a devoted follower of Jesus Christ. To seek Him in everything that is done or said. To seek to bring Him glory. To endeavor to make His name known and that He would be blessed. To be His helper, here on earth. To talk with Him about anything and everything. To always try to show Him how much He is loved. To listen to His words and act upon them. To never ignore Him. To never turn away from Him, but always look to Him.

This is the first step.